Social media, personal and work email, videos, a few games, news, and blogs - it had become a problem and she was right to point it out. Having a smartphone, tablet, laptop, and a PC at both home and work have made it very easy to be online almost every waking moment where I am sitting down, standing around, and, occasionally, while walking. I had become one of them . . . one of the people who had become too connected . . . one of the people I hear others comment about. I see this behavior lampooned in Facebook posts . . .
as well as the old fashioned way - the comic strips . . .
So, the day after Christmas I developed a strategy to not only minimize using my devices when around my wife, but I developed four (4) simple guidelines for how I want to use technology out and about during my day, as well as while I'm at home. I want to make sure I strike a balance and don't go to the other extreme or set rules that will result in my failure. While I suspect this list will be modified over time and possibly grow, it's a start . Check it out and let me know if you think I missed something or if you think something should be tweaked a bit.
- Be present for them (even though they may not be). When with the wife or family don't be checking your smartphone or tablet for emails, texts or social media. Save that for when everyone's gone to bed, especially your wife. Exception: if asked by a family member to take a picture with my smartphone or to check something on Facebook, do so, but then put the device down when finished - don't continue to stay on checking statuses or emails.
- Place books you want to read (in most cases this means books you mean to finish) in places where you sit around the house. Time spent checking Facebook posts or emails could be spent reading some books you've wanted to finish and finally start some books you'd really like to get into. You could also practice guitar more . . . which you enjoy and really need to do.
- Challenge yourself to not check your smartphone when you are meeting with other people. Wait until you have time to yourself afterwards or are back in your office.
- It's so easy to check your smartphone when standing in a line, walking around, as a passenger in a car, in between sessions at a conference or during baseball or football games. Challenge yourself to not do so because you've got nothing else to do or are bored. Exception: you like taking pictures and using filters (often times for work purposes) - as this is one of those great features of your smartphone continue to do so, but be sensitive that you are not missing something or are a distraction for others who are trying to enjoy the moment or your company.
Mobile devices are fantastic, but like watching too much television, mobile devices, I believe, can have an adverse affect on my ability to engage in daily living and take away from my quality of life. But the pendulum does not need to swing all the way to the other side. I can find that balance. I do not want to be dependent on mobile technology or social media. Instead I want these things to serve my interests and enhance my life.
It needed to happen. Using these guidelines to shape my own behavior will be a challenge, but making these changes may help me be more engaged with others, give me time to read more books, and practice guitar more. Who knows . . . by this time next year playing an F7 may be a piece of cake, and both China Grove and Sweet home Alabama may actually sound like music.